Childfree aunt refuses to allow 5-year-old and 7-year-old stay at her house in case they ruin her guest room, suggests her sister sleeps over and the kids don't: 'I like to keep the space adults-only'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Apr 8, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Being a childfree individual doesn't always mean leading a childfree life, even if some of the intentionally childless might prefer to have it that way. The birth rates may be dropping in many places, but there are still plenty of people who aspire to have families, and unless everyone without kids lives under a rock, it is likely that they are going to come into contact with that now and then.

One of the most common reasons for childfree people to find themselves around kids is via their family members. Whether they have much younger siblings or their siblings themselves have families, it's inevitable that they will do the occasional babysitting stint or social visit now and then. 

As with any other relationship, it is important to have boundaries with this, and it is true that parents can sometimes see childfree status as a reason to take advantage. However, there is also a fine line between sticking up for yourself and being unreasonable. 

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  • This is something that one childfree aunt found herself grappling with after a disagreement with her sister led to a shaming from her family. Her sibling, who has two young kids, lives out of town. The last time they visited, she asked if they could stay at her house due to all the local hotels being booked. 

    The woman refused, on the grounds that her guest room was adults-only and she was afraid of her niece and nephew ruining the decor. Her compromise was that her sister could stay with her, but the kids had to be elsewhere. Neither her sister nor her parents thought this was a fair deal, and this led to the woman seeking outside validation.

     

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    AITA for not letting my sister's kids stay in my no kid guest room?

    I 34F have a guest room in my house that's kind of my little haven. It's got a white couch, light rugs, some fragile souvenirs from my travels, etc. I'm child free by choice and like to keep the space adult only. Anyone who visits knows this. It's not a secret. My sister 38F has two young kids 5M and 7F and when she visits, she's always stayed at a hotel nearby without issue.
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    Last weekend she called saying she was coming into town last minute and needed a place to crash because all the hotels were apparently booked. I told her she could stay with me, but the kids couldn't. I offered to help her find an Airbnb or even help cover part of the cost, but she got mad and said I was choosing my furniture over her family. She hung up and now won't return my texts. Our parents are also chiming in saying I should've just made an exception for family and that I'm being too rigi
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    So AITA for sticking to my no kid policy in my own home even when it meant turning away my sister and her kids? TLDR My house has a kid free guest room with fragile stuff. Sister wanted to stay with her kids last minute. I said no, now she and my family are mad. AITA?
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    Reactions to her predicament were mixed, with many people wondering why she hadn't explored alternative solutions.

    KittyBookcase They could camp out in the living room. Couple of blankets and pillows on the floor, make a tent out of a flat sheet. Watch movies. Keep your door to your sanctuary room locked. Then they go on their merry way the next day. Good visit.
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    Beneficial-Energy 198 This. And maybe stop calling it a guest room.
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    IsltGayToKissMyBf I agree with this. Maybe call it an office or something, even if that's not what the space is used for.
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    shyfidelity I don't think YTA for not wanting the kids over necessarily, but why would you say "you can come, but not your kids" like she's just gonna leave them lol
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    fzooey78 I know Reddit loves their boundaries. I love my boundaries. But sometimes I think the support they give people in family oriented situations is a bit over the top. It doesn't sound like sis tramples over boundaries as a norm. Never has issues with staying in a hotel. She's currently in an exceptional situation. I'm not saying OP is an AH necessarily, but I think there's a distinct she very well could be if her instinct is to suggest her sister could stay there to the exclusion of her ve
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    Maleficent_Bend2911 This in my mind is the equivalent of the first amendment argument. You can say whatever you want, just like you can draw whatever boundaries you want. But your freedom of speech/boundaries is not freedom from consequences. You are in the right to refuse having the kids in the room, but your sister is Also allowed to be annoyed by it. From her perspective, OP has a wide open guestroom that she wants to use, and OP is saying no.
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    Organic-Willow2835 I'm with you. OP, you had a lot of normal person options other than banning the kids. Hello! Blanket fort and sleeping bags in the living room. The kids would have LOVED that and likely wouldn't have even left it because it's their own hideaway. At 5 & 7 my kids would have quite happily played in a blanket fort for 2 full days and not stepped foot out of it except to eat, drink or use the restroom. You don't have to be an AH to your sister. Boundaries are fine and your boundar
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    Try thinking of creative solutions. Blanket fort in the living room or dining room. Inflatable mattresses and movie night in the living room. They are 5 & 7. They don't need privacy. They just need a safe place to sleep for the weekend. Make it memorable and don't be an AH. YTA
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    MeFou And... she could just, I dunno, move the sh out of the room temporarily.
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    Logical Difference529 It's your house and you can choose who is welcome or not, but I'm going to be honest with you, you come across very cold and if you were my sister, I'd probably be low contact.
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    shammy_dammy The guest room is your little haven? That inherently makes it not a guest room, but a your room.
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    NotSynthx I mean... a little? It's your family? Your niece and nephew? You guys don't help each other out? You not wanting kids has nothing to do with the situation. You can take steps to ensure they don't ruin your little haven.
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    tygerbrees You and sister in magical guest bedroom, kids in your room I have grown to really loathe the term 'boundaries'
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    NoGuarantee3961 YTA. Had you said something like, I can't really accommodate guests right now it would probably be ok, but saying 'you can stay but the kids can't' is complete passive aggressive bulls Also, not really directed at you, but what ever happened to kids camping out on a pallet on the floor.....they don't need to crash in your super fragile guest room, they can crash in sleeping bags wherever.
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    Spiritual_Lemonade I'm an old fashioned kid from the olden times of the late 1900s. I slept in room at my grandma's in my childhood (sleepovers) nicknamed the doll room. Some might say the stuff of horrors but it was actually very beautiful and Victorian. Iron bed, chenille spread, fancy little prams stuffed with different dolls. I could look but not touch and an old Kewpie Doll was mine, that's it. I never once harmed a hair on their head and actually loved that room. YTA for assuming all kids
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    Yeetin_Boomer_Actual You done right. Kids are curious and things WILL get broken.
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    RadioSupply YTA, mildly, because if she's travelling with her kids, it's nonsensical to tell her she can stay but her kids can't. You singled them out instead of saying "sorry, I can't accommodate so many people" to underscore that you don't want the kids around. I understand having a childfree haven. I have one myself. But if you're as open about your special childfree room as you say you are about it, I think you can consider the message received and you don't have to underline it the way you
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    Capital-Lychee-9961 YTA. You're literally choosing your furniture over your family. I would never, ever tell my sister she and her kids couldn't stay at my place in a pinch because I have a white couch. You're allowed to make any choices you like, but this is like, dictionary level of being an a_h_le.
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    josemartinlopez NTA. Your house, your rules, no explanation needed.
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    NeeliSilverleaf ESH. Her for being so pushy, you for saying she could stay but her young children couldn't. What kind of VC Andrews bulls is that?
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